What is Love: Love is a Game

What is love? Well love is a game. How do you feel when you play a game? Entertaining? Fun? Exciting? Bored? Well we play games for entertainment, sometimes we play it because we are bored, or sometimes we play games because we just simply love playing or love the game itself. Well as I go on with my life journey I would like to share some of my realizations and observation that made me conclude that love is a game.

1. We play with love

Deny or not there was a point in our lives when we play with love. How? Some people know how to play with love so well, jumping from one person to another is just a piece of cake. Here are some situations we/you played with love:

• Cheating – well for some reason this was not new to love and it scares me. When someone cheats on a relationship people will show empathy to the person who was left and would say “it’s his/her lost”. People react to cheating incidents as if it was a normal thing. Guess what? It’s not! Cheating was never and will never be an acceptable act in a relationship. You decided to let your partner enter your life you own half of them, they own half of you, stop loving someone else. If you feel like you’re not happy anymore, say it and talk things over and if there’s nothing more you can do, go separate ways. Never look for someone who can satisfy you while you are in a relationship.

• Unlabeled relationship – have you ever been into a relationship without a label. A relationship that involves you and another person with word and actions that usual couple would have, with something special yet there’s nothing to share. When you are in this situation you are not just playing with love, you are playing with your hearts, giving motives without commitment. This will put your heart in danger. What if you fell in love, then the other person was just playing love with you? Stop getting involved in a relationship without assurance, because if you do there is only one thing that is certain and that’s a broken heart after a fun game.

• Ghosting – have you ever gotten into a relationship then suddenly your partner just simply stopped showing up and stop testing or chatting you. Why would you do that? If you are not happy with the relationship you’re in say it! Do not just disappear out of nowhere, you both decided to enter a relationship, so end it together, do not just leave them hanging in there hoping you’ll come back when you’re not.

• Field Trip - Is this term new to you? Well I just made this term up, I don't know if there is a term for this but let me explain this. This situation is when you are both sending love, giving sweet words, showing extra care to that person, but apparently there were no feelings involved. Well, it seems fun, but it was like gambling. You will continue playing until you have real feelings with the person you are playing with and when you tell them, they will reply "Sorry trip lang". Can we stop gambling in love? Because you only have one heart once you lose it, it's hard to recover.

Actually there are a lot more things out there, but these are just some of it. Please stop playing with love, because you are not just playing with love but you are playing with someone’s heart, and breaking them is a heavy thing to carry, and hard to get over with. So please can we stop playing with love?

2. Toyed

Some people are kind-hearted who are well behave and do not play with love, but sadly these kinds of people are mostly the ones who’ve been toyed, the one who been left hanging and cheated on. Is this world that cruel?

"We often choose to hurt people who love us and love those people who hurt us"

3. It's either you win the game or learn to win the game

When we play games sometimes we win, sometimes we lose but as we continue to play over and over again, as we lose over and over again we are slowly learning new ways to win the game and that also goes with love. When we let ourselves love we are also letting our hearts be broken, because love is not all roses, most of the time it fails. When you play a game you often feel entertained and feel irritated when you lose, but you still keep on going until you surpass that level, and the same goes with love. Love can make you happy, yet it will give you pain.

When you enter a relationship always consider these things. Love is a game sometime you win, but most of the time you learn through pain, but also remember that when you lose the game you can always try again, and when you feel tired you may rest and play the game again when you’re ready. Love is a game, whether you like it or not you will always play this game, enjoy while the fun stuff is happening and be strong when obstacles came, never quit because you are being trained to be a better version of you. Sorry learning and loving always involve pain, that’s why we should always choose those things that aew worthy of our tears.